1. Carrying Message Between Parents

A child doesn’t like the feeling that he or she must act as a messenger between hostile parents or carry one adult’s secrets or accusations about another. Children want parents to talk with each other so that the messages are communicated the right way and so that children don’t feel like they are going to mess up.

Parents must take the responsibility to talk directly with each other, especially if the topic is likely to anger the other parent. It is unfair to make your child carry messages to your “ex” because you find it too awkward or aggravating to do so yourself. It is also poor parenting to show by example to your child that you can resolve a problem with another person by not communicating or to suggest to a child that the other parent is such a monster that you cannot speak or be civil with each other.

Wherever possible, communicate directly with the other parent about matters relevant to the children, such as scheduling, visitation, health habits, or school problems.

2. Getting Involve With Money Issues

Avoid arguing and discussing child support issues in front of the children. How would you feel if you are that child hearing mom and dad arguing about your financial support? Most children upon hearing these things feel that their existence is some kind of parent’s burden.

Who will pay for what and how available money should be spent are adult issues that the parents must discuss directly. Do not put your children in the middle of your child support disputes.

3. Hearing Criticisms Of The Other Parent

It hurts a child very much to hear one loved parent criticize the other loved parent. Children see themselves as half of each parent. When children hear bad things about one parent, they hear bad things about half of themselves. If they hear bad things about both their parents, they feel that both halves of them must be of little worth.

Even if you are sure you’re right, try to avoid criticizing the other parent around the kids, and try to find good things to say, or don’t say anything at all.

The following is a list of destructive remarks that you should not make to your child. If you find yourself saying words like these, stop and think about their impact on your child.

• You’re lazy/stubborn/bad tempered, just like your mother/father.

• Your mother/father put you up to saying that.

• Your dad/mom doesn’t love any of us or he/she wouldn’t have left us.

• You can’t trust her/him.

• He/she was just no good.

• If she/he loved you, she/he would send your support checks on time.

• Someday you’ll leave me too, just like your father/mother.

All of these remarks raise fear and anxiety in children.

4. Quizzing Children About The Other Parent

Do not make your children a spy in the other parent’s home. It is very difficult for a child of divorced parents to cope with feeling “caught in the middle”. If they want to tell you about time spent with their other parent (and they usually don’t), listen closely and politely, and then stop. If they don’t volunteer any information, try simply, “Have a good time? Good.”

Encourage your children to love both parents. They must not be burdened with having to align with one parent’s anger against the other.

5. Taking Sides

Your child wants to love both of his or her parents. Asking your child to take your side in any situation regarding your ex-spouse can create a tremendous amount of stress for your child.

Avoid putting children in the position of having to take sides. Allow your children to continue to love both parents without being made to feel guilty or disloyal.

6. Dealing With Parent’s Feeling

Complaining to your child about how lonely you are after the separation makes a child feel guilty and sad and want to “parent” you. It’s not healthy for them to be consumed with worry for their parents’ ability to survive.

Let your child be a child. They need the freedom to be children. It’s easy, but wrong, to make your adolescent child, or even your adult child, a confidant in dealing with your recovery, your dating life, or your fears. Even if children seem capable of handling these concerns without ill effects, they rarely are.

7. Threatening To Cut Off Contact With The Children If The Other Parent Doesn’t Do Or Stop Doing Something

The kids hear these threats and fear more loss in their lives. Such conduct hurts your kids and must not be continued.

Recognize that for your child to have the best chance of growing up to be a functional human male or female, he/she will need both parents as role models and nurturers. This means that there should be some pathway of getting through to the child whatever good that parent has to offer.

Anything that puts a child in the middle of dispute is unhealthy, and causes the most problems for divorcing families. If parents don’t work issues through, those issues have a huge effect on their kids.

It can be hard to do, but parents can improve a situation by recognizing their divorce is from each other, not the children. Kids need to see that even though their parents might not love each other, they are committed to staying connected because of their responsibilities as parents. At time, this may seem absolutely impossible, because the parents can’t tolerate the idea of being connected. Yet the child needs both of them, psychologically if not in reality.

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If we aren’t getting what we want from our man could it be because we are not treating our man like a man? Stop pushing him around and he’ll come around.

1. Don’t undermine your husband’s decision making

This is a biggy in marriage. Isn’t it true that we women want things our way! We have been taught from grade school to go after our dreams and aspirations in life no matter what the consequences, even if that means rejecting our husband’s needs and wishes. We do what WE want and what WE need. Why would a woman of today be so determined to chip away at her husband’s manly authority and advice?

Face it ladies, we haven’t exactly helped to make our man feel like a man. If we don’t accept the man we married, why would we expect to get what we want from him? If we are rejecting, blaming, controlling, demeaning, undermining, and complaining about our husbands we certainly aren’t respecting the man we married.

If we weaken our husband’s manly resolve what’s left but our feminist attitude and bossy selfish egos? Are we taking the man we married for granted? I think we are and that’s what’s killing marriage! How do I know all this? I used to undermine my husband all the time. I wouldn’t let him be the man of the house. I was bossy and rebellious. I want you to know what I have come to know. It’s great!

2. Don’t reject your husband

How many times last month did you tell your husband that you were too tired or had a headache or simply shrugged him off because you were mad at him? Probably more times then you really think. Shouldn’t we want to satisfy our husband’s needs every single day, regardless, whether we feel like it or not? We women need to please and satisfy the men we’re married to and we’ll get our hearts desire. We really will!

3. Give your husband space (time with buddies)

Do you complain because your husband likes to have free time away with the guys? Maybe you feel he should be home doing chores or watching the children on his day off. But face it ladies, our man deserves time away to be with his friends to play golf, fish or hunt, or whatever it is he does just as much as we deserve to be with our friends. Did you know that a husband that is allowed the freedom to be with his buddies is a happier and more content filled man? Isn’t that what we want anyway?

4. Cook your husband hot and nutritious meals every day

It is so true that one way to our man’s heart is through his stomach. Ask any man and he’ll tell you. I know that some of you ladies who work out of the home just don’t have the time to cook nice meals everyday. Buy a crock-pot and a crock-pot cookbook and learn to make delicious homemade meals with it. Crock-pot cooking is so simple. You throw all the ingredients in the pot and it cooks safely all day, and the food will be ready when you both come home from work.

5. Respect your husband

What’s so hard about respecting the man we married? If we control the marriage and feel that our husband can’t do anything as good as we can, we certainly won’t be able to respect him, right? Is treating your husband like one of the children respecting him? Is complaining about their faults respecting him? Is telling him what he’s going to do respecting him? Is rejecting him sexually respecting him? Is belittling him respecting him? Well then, stop doing all these things and you are on your way to respecting the man you married.

6. Let your husband protect you

God made man to be the protector of women. Men love to do it, they want to do it, and they feel like a man when we let them do it. But most married women don’t feel they need protected because they can take care of themselves. They carry mace, a gun and take karate classes and act like a man and still, they are getting beaten, raped, manhandled, and murdered. If a woman is married why on earth would she want to take away her husbands god-given natural abilities as a protector?

A married woman needs to allow her husband do his job in the manner in which he does it best, by protecting and loving his wife with the natural abilities God gave him. How can a man do that when the woman won’t let him? This is how a man loves his woman!

Seriously now, it’s really that simple. What would happen if we didn’t allow our husbands to protect us? We would be rejecting their love for us. Don’t you want to be loved by your man? Did you know that when we don’t let our husband’s love us the way God meant for a man to love his wife, we are rebelling against God?

7. Submit to your husband (love God)

Ladies, first you must learn to submit to God. This was a major issue in my marriage for many years because I didn’t accept God. I was looking out into the world for the answers to my marriage problems when the answers were within my spiritual self the whole time. I finally grew to accept and love God. That is the root of submitting right there.

By growing out from the selfish person I was, I learned to understand what submitting to my husband was all about. Once a woman learns to submit to her husband she will see that by submitting she is actually in more control of the marriage and a better marriage wife because of it.

In other words, a woman will not lose anything of her self by submitting but will gain more of herself that was lost.

“Now I want you to know that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.” 1 Corinthian’s 11:3

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Your ringbearer will take his job seriously. And he will also be a little nervous. After all, who would not be, considering that all eyes of the wedding guests will be upon him? Ringbearer gifts are a great way to convey your thanks to him and that you appreciate his efforts.

What type of ringbearer gifts should you consider? There are a few things to factor in first in your quest for a present. First of all, how old is he? His age could guide you in your decision in ringbearer gifts. Another factor to think about is his personality and interests. What gets him excited? What does he have fun doing?

If he is just a little guy, consider ringbearer gifts that are keepsakes, yet also functional. Personally engraved silver plated banks make for great ringbearer gifts. Depending on what he likes, you can find banks shaped like tractors, airplanes and even trains. In addition, you can put a few dollars in coins to start his “savings.”

Other ideas for ringbearer gifts for a younger kid include Lego kits, Hot Wheels cars and even activity kits with markers and stickers. The Lego’s and even the activity kits would make great ringbearer gifts because they could keep the little guy occupied during what he would think is a really long reception!

If your ringbearer is a little older, his interests and hobbies could be a good guide to determining ringbearer gifts. If he is a baseball fan, there are great personally engraved keepsakes like baseballs or even baseball bats. If he is a football kind of kid, great ringbearer gifts include a special edition football or a jersey with his favorite player’s number on it.

Maybe he is a video game nut. Great ringbearer gifts include a portable Gameboy, game software for his computer or a gift certificate to his favorite video game store. For an adrenaline rush, amusement park tickets or water park admissions make for some awesome ringbearer gifts. For those outdoor types of boys who like camping and fishing, compasses make for ringbearer gifts as do fishing poles and backpacks.

Some ringbearer gifts speak to the child in all of us. Remote controlled cars, motorcycles or even airplanes would thrill your ringbearer. Just make sure you don’t charge those batteries ahead of time or else you will have him racing it throughout the reception! Of course, he is going to want to be just like the big guys, so maybe ringbearer gifts of a personalized drinking mug or tankard would work. Of course, whatever you choose would be the kid’s version of what the adult groomsmen may have received.

No matter what ringbearer gifts you decide upon, just remember that he is still just a kid. So look to the child still living inside your own heart and think about what you would have been thrilled to get at his age. That will help you in your quest of great ideas for ringbearer gifts.

Dave Poon is the owner of Engraved Gift Creations. We take the headache out of selecting gifts for your wedding party, whether they are Groomsmen or Bridesmaids. Come and see our selection of groomsmen gifts and bridesmaid gifts at Engraved Gift Creations.

Marriage is one of the most important and happiest moments you will be experiencing in your life. It is the time where you will show to the world the expression of your love towards to your partner in life, swearing to each other and before God that you will live with all your life and soul, in sickness and in health, and until death do you part.

Wedding occasions are given proper planning and attention to match the atmosphere of happiness and celebration. Every aspect is carefully check detail by detail, from the participants during the wedding ceremonies up to the reception and other matters.

Most couples want to hold their wedding rites inside the church in order to feel the solemnity of the sacrament of marriage. However, there are also other wedding trends that are preferred by other couples as well. One of these popular trends is the wedding on the beach. There are couples who want to experience being wed on a beach resort thinking that it is fun and exciting. After all, the only difference between a church and beach wedding is the placebut the solemnity of the ceremony still remains the same.

If you are planning of getting married with your fiancée on a great beach resort, one thing that you may want to consider is the type of wedding dress that you will be wearing. Keep in mind that the ceremony will be done outside on a fine weather.

Considering the weather and atmosphere present on the beach, it is impractical if you will be wearing that long white gown (if you are the bride) and the very formal black tuxedo (if you are the groom).

If that will be the case, why don’t you have a try of Hawaiian wedding dress? Even if you are not actually wed in the shores of Hawaii, wearing Hawaiian outfit for the wedding is a pretty good idea. Got curious and interested? Read the rest of this article and learn more about the wedding dress ala Hawaiian style.

The trademark of most Hawaiian wedding dress is that it is made either from silk or cotton, which is ideal for tropical weather. Couples who prefer beach weddings decide to have Hawaiian style of wedding dress as their attire for their wedding rites. Furthermore, you will enjoy how it feels to be wed on a beach if the ceremonies will be held on the beautiful shores of Hawaii.

Most of these Hawaiian wedding dresses are manufactured and sold on Hawaii as well as in other parts of the United States. Some of these are exported to different countries as well. You may personally go to Hawaii and personally select and purchase some of the finest wedding dresses fit for bride and groom from local merchants.

The finest Hawaiian wedding dress that you can purchase is made from either 100 percent cotton or with combined with other materials. There are also wedding dress that is made from heavy silk. On the other hand, if you are planning for some casual wedding ceremonies, you may as well wear coconut-buttoned shirts. Whether formal or informal, still the bride wears that white dress.

You can find various resources for your Hawaiian wedding dress on the Internet. From there, you can find the dress of your choice from their wide selection.

Hawaiian wedding dress is just perfect for your tropical marriage rites along the beach.

The wedding planner software gives you a glimpse inside your wedding day. The wedding planner checklist includes every detail of your day. What is the theme of your wedding, how large is your wedding, how many guests? Are you prepared? Have you thought of everything? The list includes a timeline of when everything should be done. For example, after you have become engaged, you and your spouse will want to discuss the budget, the style of your wedding, number in wedding party and number of guests. You may want to schedule pre-marital counseling, reserve wedding sites, book the hotels for the guests, and plan the catering for the reception.

Don’t forget the photographer, and all other plans made during your engagement. Six months before, you will want to look at the number of guests and who will attend, as well as choosing wedding rings, your bridal party, music, ushers, filling out gift registries, making honeymoon plans, and much more. You can also find more ideas on your online wedding planner such as personality profiles and others. There are lists for each month before, and right up till the day of your wedding and after. As you go through your planner make sure to check off every item, as you will feel more organized this way.

Your wedding planner checklist includes all the important details for your day. Every item is important and needs to be planned accordingly. From the engagement to the honeymoon you will be thrilled to see that it is quite possible to be very organized. So, research our available sites, and happy planning! Wedding planner software can make your wedding day less stressful.

Ken and Deidre Bissonette are successful authors and publishers of Wedding information made for every bride and groom. Take the next step to the wedding planning. http://www.weddingdresses-gifts-flowers.com

Currently, more than 40 million people aged 20-49 are divorced or separated according to the U.S. Census Bureau’s Annual Social and Economic Supplement. Luckily, there are 41 million people who still have time to reduce their odds of becoming a statistic.

Here are three steps to help you eliminate incompatible dates and bring yourself closer to marriage.

1. First, write down 20 things that you strongly believe.

For example, do you strongly believe that:

• One person should remain in the home with the children
• Household bills should be evenly split or men should carry the major financial burden
• A family should practice the same religion

2. Next, write down 10 of your biggest pet peeves.

For example, does it bother you when:

• Teeth are picked in public
• Toothpaste is left in the sink
• Unclean dishes are left in the sink overnight

3. Finally, cross out the items on your lists for which you will compromise.

For example, if cleanliness is an issue for you, would you compromise with the hiring of a maid?

Marriage is supposed to be forever. Very few people enter into a marriage with the intentions of it ending in divorce. But too many people learn late in a relationship that their beliefs and traits are incompatible with the person to whom they have committed. By acting now to write down things that can potentially sabotage a relationship 1, 5 or even 10 years down the line, you put yourself on the path to sustain your relationship or enter into one that is better for your sanity.

© Copyright 2005 by Tiffany Green.

Tiffany is the author of “Grading on a Curve: The Marriageability Factor – 99 Traits, Beliefs and Actions to look for in a Mate” (ISBN 1-4116-3996-0). She has recently released a Web site http://www.MarriageabilityFactor.com with tips, articles and resources to help women make wiser decisions in relationships.

Since the wedding party must arrive at the place where the wedding is to take place, the processional was inevitable, only it’s form has changed through the years. And while the progressive bride might think she’s doing something rather unique by arriving in a horse-drawn carriage, progressive brides of the past have been known to arrive at church on horseback, veil and hair streaming behind her.

The less affluent, or perhaps more conservative, tended to walk to the church surrounded by friends, family, and a few special people who would give a touch of class to the whole proceeding.
These touches would come in the form of children dressed in silks and satins, and conveying a practical symbol of fertility. The symbol of fertility would be further underscored by the older guests who might carry garlands of wheat or even a cake. While informal in its aspect, it had all the meaning of the current, well-rehearsed, wedding march.

Above all, the processional meant a lot of noise as talented guests beat their drums, squeezed out piercing melodies out of their bagpipes, and fiddled away to their hearts content.

Unlike today, the wedding march procession tended to collect more and more participants as it progressed. Like vampires drawn to warm blood, farmers, tradesmen, shopkeepers, their hands still full of their occupation, would join the noisy crowd. Many of the lucky symbols thrown at the unsuspecting couples included corn or wheat or, indeed, any sort of seeds being planted. Caught up in the moment, there would also be the odd horse shoe or even nails, by the blacksmith interrupted amidst his labours.

While it was a lot of fun for the bride and groom to make their event known far and wide by the noise that accompanied them from home to church, it was actually as practical a gesture, as it was a decorative one. If somewhere in the future one of the spouses were to suggest that perhaps the marriage had no legitimate status, the other spouse could call upon dozens of people who could swear on a stack of bibles that they had seen the wedding, heard the wedding, and had even been part of the wedding.

Vlady Peters is an Australian Civil Marriage Celebrant authorised to perform marriages in Australia. She also perform general ceremonies such as Baby Naming, Renewal of Vows and Commitment Ceremonies. To learn more about her as a celebrant and an author visit vlady at http://www.weddings-celebrant.com

If you want your wedding to be first class in every way, there is no such thing as a cheap wedding favour. You certainly get what you pay for although it is possible to find inexpensive wedding favours at certain stores such as World of Wedding Favours. Quality, elegance and class must all precede cost when you are looking for quality wedding favours to supply to your guests. It is important that if you are making wedding favour boxes that they are decorated with ribbons and flowers and filled with high quality almonds, candy, dragees or chocolate hearts. Equally, if you are making traditional bomboniere that the nets are secured with pretty ribbons and the edible contents are of high quality in decor and taste.

You may wish to offer your guests inedible wedding favours such as wedding favour playing cards. Again, these can end up looking like cheap wedding favours if they are not beautifully presented perhaps in a co-ordinating organza bag or a decorated elegant wedding favour box.

Inexpensive wedding favours can clearly be purchased and produced though quality components need to be used otherwise the outcome will be tacky, cheap looking wedding favours.

After planning such a beautiful and successful day, the last thing you want on your mind is your guests leaving your wedding reception thinking that you have cut corners by offering them cheap wedding favours. For example, you can put together some inexpensive wedding favours by organza bags and filling them with a range of confectionery to suit your wedding theme. You may opt for a small wedding favour box filled with colour co-ordinating candy. Both options suggested here are of fabulous quality but reasonably priced. So, you can offer guests inexpensive wedding favours that don’t look like cheap wedding favours by selecting the right supplier. World of Wedding Favours are experts at creating quality wedding favours as well as custom orders.

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But do you know the real sticker price of a wedding these days? You may want to have a seat for this one. According to a 2005 survey by The Fairchild Bridal Group, the average cost of a wedding is $26,327. And no, that’s not a typo.

So that’s the bad news. The good news is that you can do it for less and still have the wedding of your dreams. And you won’t have to cut your guest list down to 10 or have a cash bar at your reception.

But before you begin crunching numbers and cutting budgets, figure out which elements of your wedding are most important. Start with a list of the major bridal expenditures (cake, ceremony/reception location, flowers, food, formal wear, honeymoon, invitations, music, photographer, and videographer) and rate them in numerical order. Once you’ve done that, you’ll have a better understanding of your expectations for your wedding.

So on to the free advice…

Not all ‘weddings on a budget’ advice has to focus on settling for the next best thing. There are lots of ways to save money and still get precisely what you always dreamed of having. For example:

- Once you’ve picked out the perfect wedding gown, go online and see if you can find a better price. There are several reliable, online bridal retailers that also operate their own bridal salons–so you won’t have to worry about fly-by-night operations and poor customer service. (And yes, they offer brand name gowns.)

- Do the same for your shoes and accessories. Many of these online shops have free shipping and no sales tax–so that’s money in your pocket.

- If you’re serving alcohol at your reception, ask your caterer if they charge a corkage fee. If they don’t, look in to purchasing it through a wholesaler, local retailer, or even online. You’re going to get better prices.

- Instead of hiring a professional videographer, get a friend or hire a student from your local university to do the handiwork.

- Ready-made favors can cost upwards of $3 per person. And most of the cost associated with these little tokens of appreciation is labor. So make them yourself…it’s not that hard and can be lots of fun!

- Instead of buying expensive, personalized thank you cards, buy boxed thank-you cards. You can find beautiful ones at a card store, bookstore, or stationer.

- If your guests aren’t big on dancing, think about skipping the DJ or band. Instead, hire a solo musician for a romantic touch.

- If you’re having an outdoor ceremony or reception, use potted plants instead of expensive floral arrangements. Not only will you save money, but you’ll get to take the flowers home and watch them grow through the years.

- Have your reception at a local restaurant. Many don’t charge a location/rental fee AND you won’t have to rent tables, chairs, or linens.

Planning a wedding on a budget doesn’t have to be painful. And it certainly doesn’t mean that you can’t have everything you always dreamed of. It’s about being spending your money wisely…and perhaps saving a little so you can buy furniture AFTER the wedding.

Jessica Bonilla is the owner and editor of http://www.e-wedding-planner.com/ — the source that makes online wedding planning a lot easier.

Copyright 2005.

Starting from the engagement, Americans can think of unique ways to personalize their wedding. As there really isn’t any engagement tradition, the more unique the marriage proposal is done, the better.

For most wedding preparations, the engaged couple visits their parents to notify them of their recent engagement.

At times, the engaged couple hosts an engagement party. The engagement party costs less than a wedding reception since most of the time, the menu will only include cocktails and hors d’oeuvres. Therefore, if the couple is on a tight budget, they can just invite more guests to the engagement party if they plan to limit the number of guests during the wedding.

Most wedding preparations have a bridal shower given by the maid of honor and the bridesmaids. The groom may also have a bachelor party the night before the wedding but he has to be careful not to drink too much.

Wedding invitations should include response cards to quickly inform the couple whether the person has accepted or declined the invitation. The wedding invitations should also be sent within four to six weeks before the event.

Usually, there is a rehearsal dinner in which the wedding party and guests came from far places to be present at the wedding attend. It was the practice that the groom’s parents pay for this dinner.

A bridal luncheon may be hosted for the bride’s attendants during the wedding day. However, time constraint may not permit this to be part of the schedule for the wedding day. Likewise, the groom may also host a groom’s dinner for his groomsmen.

Interestingly, even if the couple is not very religious, they still prefer a religious ceremony. However, this may pose a problem since in America people of different faiths and religious backgrounds get married.

Even if there are few people who believe in bad luck, some couples still make sure that the groom does not see his bride until she starts waking on the aisle.

It is still practiced that the groom and his groomsmen enter the church through a side door. The bride will then walk down the aisle with her father. In some cases when both her father and stepfather brought up the bride, she may ask them both to escort her.

During a formal reception, there is usually a bridal table where the couple and the attendants sit. Also, food and drinks should be served as the guests appear at the reception.

Before, gift giving used to depend on what the guest will feel useful for the couple. Now, it is better to register for gifts so the guests will know what to bring that the couple will need.

Upon receiving an engagement or wedding gift, it is better to send a thank you note apart from saying “thank you” to the giver. This should be sent within two weeks upon receipt of the gift. Make a personalized thank you note, instead of using an impersonal generic thank you note.

These are just some of the many American practices during weddings. Whether one chooses to this or prefers to have a very different wedding, what’s more imperative is that American’s still believe in the wedding vow, “For better or worse, ’til death do us part.”